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Is Dad-Deprivation the Problem, or Is It Poverty, Bad Schools . . . ?
by Warren Farrell
Is Dad-Deprivation the Problem, or Is It Poverty, Bad Schools . . . ?pgs. 122-124 The Boy Crisis When we hear that boys without dads do badly in so many ways, we wonder whether the cause is dad deprivation, or overlapping factors such as the greater poverty encountered by single moms in less-well funded school … Continue reading Is Dad-Deprivation the Problem, or Is It Poverty, Bad Schools . . . ? →
Boy Crisis Excerpt – Boundary Enforcement
by Warren Farrell
1. Boundary Enforcement (Versus Boundary Setting) Moms often ask me, “Why is it that when I speak, nothing happens, but when their dad speaks, the kids drop everything and obey? Is it his deeper voice?” It makes moms feel disrespected and taken for granted. But it’s not dad’s deeper voice. Dads who don’t enforce boundaries … Continue reading Boy Crisis Excerpt – Boundary Enforcement →
Boy Crisis Excerpt – New Spin on ADHD
by Warren Farrell
(Excerpt from The Boy Crisis, pages 315-316) A New Spin on ADHD There is still much confusion about what the term ADHD really means. The name of the disorder itself—attention deficit hyperactivity disorder—is actually misleading and prevents many parents and adults from recognizing or relating to this condition. The common symptoms identified by the medical … Continue reading Boy Crisis Excerpt – New Spin on ADHD →

Stop Shaming Men on December 6
by Janice Fiamengo
More than three decades after the Montreal Massacre, the anniversary of the shootings remains the occasion for alarmist claims about violence against women and the ritual shaming of men. Such shaming may be satisfying to anti-male ideologues, but it does nothing to prevent future violence and should cease immediately. On December 6, 1989, 25-year-old Marc Lépine (born … Continue reading Stop Shaming Men on December 6 →
EXCERPT: Sons of Feminism: Men Have Their Say
by Janice Fiamengo
Feminist leaders tell us that men are entitled and powerful. Janice Fiamengo actually asked men what it is like to be male in a feminist culture. These 26 stories will surprise you with their accounts of men belittled, disliked, dismissed, blamed, falsely accused, and discriminated against under law–all while being expected to apologize for their … Continue reading EXCERPT: Sons of Feminism: Men Have Their Say →

Excerpt: A Gentleman’s Guide to Manners, Sex, and ruling the World — Divorce
S. K. Baskerville Divorce pages 173-178 I receive letters, calls, and email messages almost daily, and they always begin with words like this: “You won’t believe what happened to me.” But I do believe it, because not only have I witnessed many such cases; I have written entire books explaining why it happens. Here I … Continue reading Excerpt: A Gentleman’s Guide to Manners, Sex, and ruling the World — Divorce →
FIREARMS: AN EXCERPT FROM A GENTLEMAN’S GUIDE TO MANNERS, SEX, AND RULING THE WORLD
Firearms At one time, one mark of a gentlemen was the practice and privilege of carrying a sidearm. When the Japanese samurai were forced to give up their exclusive right to carry swords, it marked the end of their status and really their existence and of Japan’s feudal society. At some point, this started to … Continue reading FIREARMS: AN EXCERPT FROM A GENTLEMAN’S GUIDE TO MANNERS, SEX, AND RULING THE WORLD →
The Sexual Left, the Welfare State, and the Divorce Revolution
(originally published in the June 2021 issue of Chronicles magazine.) How America went communist.By Stephen Baskerville “All politics is on one level sexual politics.” —George Gilder Extremists break out of the margins and take power when they fool opponents into advancing their agenda. By politicizing the family and sexuality, the left duped conservatives, and all of us, into … Continue reading The Sexual Left, the Welfare State, and the Divorce Revolution →

A Requiem for Manhood
By Paul Nathanson Yesterday was a fine spring day. On my way out for the afternoon, I saw some yellow tulips shyly lifting their heads to the sky and the first bright and feathery leaves unfolding on branches. And yet I spent the afternoon indoors at a movie. It’s about the decline of manhood and … Continue reading A Requiem for Manhood →
The Price of Pacifism:
By Paul Nathanson The Great War produced several fine movies during the 1920s and 1930s (before the next war became a topic of greater urgency). Notable among these are Wings (William Wellman, 1927), Sister in White (Victor Fleming, 1933), A Farewell to Arms (Frank Borzage, 1932) and, most notable by far, All Quiet on the … Continue reading The Price of Pacifism: →
From Sex to Sexual Harassment in the Movie Industry
Paul Nathanson ©2019 Beginning on 5 October 2017, a long series of sex scandals shook the entertainment industry and other industries that allowed immensely powerful men access to immensely beautiful young women (or immensely beautiful young men). By now, the “casting couch” has become a dirty secret, better known as sexual harassment. But it was … Continue reading From Sex to Sexual Harassment in the Movie Industry →

Disengage
I would assume that none of you reading this are unfamiliar with the Twitterati; the last (and greatest) stronghold of the Serpent-cult. Perhaps, one could say, the praetorian guard of the feminist hivemind and the woke-ists. Twitter, in all their censorious might and with all their obvious political leanings and/or agenda, has become nothing but … Continue reading Disengage →
Plastic is eternal (TM):
Back in the baby-batter days of my ramblings on whatever the green-skinned fuck is going on with our societies at present, I wrote a piece (Rebellion? We can get it for you wholesale!) in which I opined and pined, wailed, howled in frustration and snark, that whatever passes for rebellion in whichever generation, will eventually … Continue reading Plastic is eternal (TM): →
Godspeed, you Barbarian Kings, Godspeed:
Godspeed, you Barbarian Kings, Godspeed: Have you ever read Conan the Barbarian? Not the comics, though they aren’t bad at all. No, I mean the original Robert E. Howard stories. The old pulp-magazine tales. If no, then you should. If yes, well – go re-read them. They are, as a matter of fact, excellent. Even … Continue reading Godspeed, you Barbarian Kings, Godspeed: →

Male Friendships
Tom and Janice discuss the path of male friendships and the many changes over the last hundred and fifty years. They focus on what has recently been making male friendships more difficult and some ideas about what men are doing about it. The media stresses the need for men to have relationships while simultaneously telling … Continue reading Male Friendships →
Helpers High – Feeling Good in a red pilled world
Feeling Good — #9 Helper’s High #9 Helper’s High! The stereotype is that altruistic giving is a selfless act. It may be, but scientists are now realizing that when we give to others we indeed get something back. We know now that when you give freely and selflessly you get a rush of endorphins that is … Continue reading Helpers High – Feeling Good in a red pilled world →
Gaining Status – Men Are Good Shorts
Tom GoldenTom Golden is the author or three books, Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing, The Way Men Heal, and Helping Mothers be Closer to Their Sons: UnderStanding the Unique World of Boys. Tom was the creator of the youtube channel Men Are Good and served as the vice chairman of the Maryland Commission for Men’s … Continue reading Gaining Status – Men Are Good Shorts →

Republishing this article from Equality for Boys and Men

September 24, 2021 by Admin

If you can see it, you can be it. This concept is rightly employed to emphasize the importance of girls seeing women succeeding in a variety of roles, including ones not conventionally associated with women. The flip side of this concept similarly bears truth: If you can’t see it, you can’t be it.

One role that many boys can’t see themselves in, thanks to the bias with which we educate them, is the role of victim of intimate partner violence (also called domestic violence). A textbook example of such miseducation is the Coaching Boys Into Men program, which is delivered by coaches of boys sports teams. Since its launch in 2008, thousands of coaches of high school boys have delivered this curriculum that fails in two ways:

Coaching Boys Into Men reinforces stereotypes against boys while teaching them not to reinforce stereotypes against others, and – most importantly –
With its focus on boys as potential abusers, Coaching Boys Into Men fails to teach boys how to recognize and prevent abuse against themselves.

Dating violence: 1 in 11 girls, 1 in 14 boys

If girls never abused their boyfriends, then the Coaching Boys Into Men curriculum would be acceptable as it is. However, surveys conducted by the Centers for Disease Control showed that approximately 1 in 11 female and 1 in 14 male high school students reported having experienced physical dating violence in the previous year. Furthermore:

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